Firstly. There's this thing called "Trolling"-- let me say a thing or two about trolling. As a girl, there is nothing more unattractive to me than a guy who tries to be a troll. Even if you don't troll on me, it is still one of the biggest turn offs.
When a girl posts a picture and you have something rude to say about it, it makes you look like an idiot. Even when you think you've said something funny, just trust me, it makes you look really bad. Making a comment online to someone about how they look, what's wrong with how they look/dress/talk etc, is uncalled for and immature. I wonder how your grandma would feel if she saw you post something like that online. Or your future employer. Or your future wife. Weren't you guys ever told that if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all?
Looking out for the guys out there when I say this; don't be rude. Girls generally don't like it. Even if you are rude to a girl you don't care about, or don't you don't care if you hurt her feelings, the girls who are interested in you will see that kind of thing. Girls check up on the kind of guy they are pursuing. If they see rude remarks on someone else's page, they will generally run in the opposite direction.
Secondly. What's with "swag"? Why are you all so obsessed with how you look? I mean, it's awesome you take care of yourself and try to look good, but... swag..? Come on. "I got swag." Oh, well I'm so sorry, you should see a doctor about that...
I'm not talking about the clothing. You can wear whatever you want. What do I care if your Nikes match your underwear? I'm talking about the attitude that comes with "swag". It's great to look nice, but the arrogance has gotta go. It's one thing to be confident in yourself, but to be so completely engulfed in yourself? How is there any room for someone else? If your "game" is to get lots of girls, then I have one question for you. Is quantity really better than quality? I mean really. You would rather hop from chick to chick, have a great score with your buds, but a bad reputation with respectable girls? I mean if you really want to settle for a girl who has been with lots of guys like you, good luck making her stay in a relationship when you actually want one. Because by the time you actually want a relationship with a girl who could be your wife, that girl will only be able to see your reputation, and sadly, your "swag" won't impress her.
Lastly. How do you treat your significant other? Do you scream at each other when you have an argument? Do you call each other names? Do you put more into the relationship than your partner does, or vice versa? I've been with my boyfriend for the past three years of my life-- and although we have had our ups and downs, we have always been able to improve our relationship.
The first thing I need to stress, is don't ever call each other names. It's absolutely pointless, it's immature, and it accomplishes nothing. You need to have respect for your girl, and she needs to have respect for you. If you can't ever accomplish anything without calling each other names, maybe you should reconsider your relationship with that person. If you can put aside name calling, here's a tip for solving a problem in your relationship.
Usually, guys in a relationship don't talk much. If something is bothering them, they let it slide, or don't say much about it until a huge argument occurs. Girls, on the other hand, have a lot to say. They can't stop talking, and that is intimidating to guys.
So next time you need to discuss something with your girl, set a timer. You have 10 minutes to talk, and she has 10 minutes to talk. It's difficult for both parties to do this, because the guy has to fill up 10 minutes with how he feels, and the girl has to fit everything she feels into 10 minutes. Once both of you have spoken, set the timer again for 10 minutes. In this time you can both discuss what the other has said, and try to come up with a solution. The entire discussion should be over within a half hour.
My last bit of advice for all you guys out there, is listen. All your girl wants to know is that you listen to her. You hear what she says, and it is important to you. If you don't listen to what your girl is talking about, she will feel unimportant, and that is never a good way to feel. If something you said or did hurt her feelings, listen to her and apologize, even if you don't think you were wrong. Being in a relationship is never all about who is right and who is wrong. It's about respecting each other and treating each other like you love each other. If compromises can't happen, then a relationship can't happen.
- Emily
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