Girls.

Listen up.

You put way too much online. I don't want to hear about how ugly you think you are, "how come nobody wants to take me to prom?", "I know I'm fat but I love this bikini!", "Stop commenting about my boobs!"--- I can't even go on. I don't know who ever said showing your entire life and then some would be cute. Let me enlighten you. Showing off your body online is one of the worst things you could ever do for yourself. You are degrading yourself by attracting all the wrong kinds of guys. And then when those kinds of guys comment on your picture, you get offended. 

Here is my advice to you. 

Don't post the picture to begin with. By posting the picture, you are opening yourself up for creeps. Guys you don't want looking at you are going to look at you. And, to be quite honest, it sends the wrong message to everyone. Girls think you're easy and then don't like you, guys think you're easy and then they  do like you... it's just not a good situation. 

Moving forward. 

Statuses should never, ever, under ANY circumstance, reveal your entire life. Just because someone is your "friend" on Facebook, doesn't mean they are worthy of knowing something your true friends deserve to know. You can't find a date to prom? Don't post about it. It is a turn off to guys because it makes you sound desperate. You're convinced someone posted a status about you? Don't post a status about them posting a status about you. It doesn't make you any better than them. I can't tell you the amount of times I have seen a nice girl ruin any shred of respect I may have had for her because she posts everything that is happening to her. Don't post your whole life on Facebook. It isn't healthy. 

And lastly; 

Stop being what is referred to as an "attention whore". Fishing for complements is the worst thing you could ever do. It says that you aren't comfortable enough in your own skin to be happy with yourself. You depend on what others think about you, and you strive to hear a nice thing said about you so that you can feel better about yourself. "I'm so ugly". The only thing that is going to come out of a post like that is lots of people feeling bad for you. Who wants that?! I certainly would rather be seen as a confident young woman who can stand on her own two feet than an insecure girl who leans on what everyone else thinks of her. Don't post statuses about how ugly you are, what a bad person you are, how you wish you weren't you. Even if you feel that way, keep it to yourself and people who are close to you. If you truly feel that way about yourself, you don't like yourself etc, don't be afraid to get some help with those feelings. But posting about it on Facebook sends the wrong kind of message. Unfortunately, many girls think it is a good way to catch someones eye... but in fact it has the exact opposite effect. It makes a girl look pathetic and dependent-- even if they aren't! 

From one girl to another, just love yourself. All the things talked about above are examples of how girls seek for acceptance from other people. You may not even realize you do it! But let me tell you-- it is a much better lifestyle choice to just accept yourself how you are rather than try and impress everyone with pictures and statuses. Ultimately, you are living this life for you! You are here to be happy and make others happy by simply being the person you are. If the people you surround yourself with don't appreciate the person you are, than you are hanging around the wrong people. 

Girls, learn to leave some for the imagination. When you learn to do that, you can be called a lady. 

--Emily